My twin sons turned 9 a few weeks ago. Both of my son’s are autistic. They are on the spectrum. Naszir is the oldest by an hour and 15 minutes. Rayquan is the youngest. My son’s were diagnosed with autism in 2010, when they were 3 years old. It has been a challenge but a great reward. Below is a link to our video page on youtube.com. If you are a parent of a child on the spectrum, we all have those “woe is me days” We tough it out. Resources for a lot of us are scarce. We are a community which will never be lifted into the status quo. Marriages and relationships dissolve, anger ensues, under qualified teachers, under budgeted school districts etc. These are things we as parents must think about when we find out about outhchild being on the spectrum. Their safety. if someone is abusing them physical, emotionally and yes even sexually. What worked for me is I honestly had to kill a part of myself and build another. I had to kill the notion of the boys liking the same things I liked. I had to rip away that they might not ever slam dunk a basketball like their dad. I had to resurrect my childhood and embrace theirs as they grow. You see it is not about you as a parent once your child is on the spectrum. It is about them. It’s their world. And if you’re a selfish individual you will not make it in their world. Give up your weekends, events with friends, possible pets, relationships, and other things that you have planned for your whole life prior to having children. It sounds harsh but it is true. Keep in mind these are just generalities and every kid on the spectrum is different. What works for me might not work for you.
I am trying my hardest to teach my boys about my African culture. However I have to realize a beautiful thing. There is no race, religion, gender, political affiliation, in their world. If we want to know about acceptance, you can watch our videos below. If anyone wants to talk about these issues, I will always respond. Enjoy